My libido called. I let it go to voicemail.
I’ll check it later.
I’m not one of those vixen-like, 50-something sex kittens I read about in Cosmo.
In horror.
Frankly, I think it’s a bunch of crap. I’m skeptical that there’s a giant population of women over 50 who live their lives needing, obsessing about, or, and here’s the kicker, initiating sex, but I’ll play along.
Liars.
Now, I know how to get my sexy on. So before you go judging, I’m just here to say that there are lots of things more important than the act of sex, and those little gems have become more apparent to me as the sands go through the proverbial hourglass.
Probably because I recently realized that I’ve lived more life than I have left to live.
There’s a cheery thought.
You’re welcome.
But I digress.
Back to why having actual sex isn’t high on my list “things that make will make every day the best day ever.”
I don’t actually have a list like that, but now that I say it, I’d like to start.
I’ll put that on my other list.
Anyway, I’m bringing sexy back. Me and Justin Timberlake. I’m bringing it back to not being about sex. I bet if most women out there were honest, they’d come clean and admit they’d appreciate that. A lot.
Sex isn’t the only sexy thing in life. It’s actually not that sexy when you think about it.
Some things are so incredibly hot and sexy to me that I can hardly breathe when they happen.
None of them have to do with the deed either.
Surprised?
I’m sure you’re not. It’s not because of my age necessarily, though I’m sure that’s a part of it.
I think it’s because I’m super evolved. I’m deep. Mysteriously deep.
Let’s get to the meat of the matter. Ahem.
What’s does a man do that is sexier to me than sex you ask?
Here’s the hot and steamy list:
Clean is definitely super sexy
When he is super clean and cares a lot about being a clean person who smells good, especially when he’s around me. That’s a sign of respect.
It’s hot.
Aw, that is really nice
I love when he takes something heavy out of my hands and carries it for me just for the hell of it. Not because I’m a frail lil’ woman, but because it’s nice.
That’s really hot.
I think you’re listening
When he looks right at me and listens when I talk, doesn’t glance at his phone, other people, or his nails, that feels so good. Back that up with some really good questions and things are gonna go off the rails.
So hot.
Shhhh…
When I’m under the weather, just taking a nap or even sleeping in, and he is so careful to shut the door quietly or do things without making a sound as if a baby was sleeping. Nice. I hear it of course, because I, like all women, hear everything, even in REM sleep, but I’m like, “God that is so cute. He’s being quiet so I can rest.”
Hot, hot, hot.
Smooth Operator
He is intuitive enough to know when I’m not having a great day, so he just steps up and does the little things we may sometimes bicker about. Preemptively dodging any potential bullet, being that I’m out of sorts. That one is a little selfish too, but still, it’s intuitive because he’s tuned into my feelings and what I have going on.
Damn. That is hot.
So all in all, I guess I’m saying that’s a short list of things that I would categorize as “things I would rather have consistently instead of actual sex-if I had to choose one or the other.”
There, I said it.
If you’re a little sex kitten and feel kinda bad for me because I “don’t know what I’m missing”, well, you’d be wrong.
You do you, sister.
I’m not saying I’ve lost my sex drive and I’m also not some kind of a head case, I’m just being realistic.
Sexy is as sexy does. And it does more than have sex.
🎉 P.S. Why not start a new morning routine in Midlife! Daily Gratitude Journaling and Meditating with your coffee is a great way to start the day!